Why do women try so hard to look good? (G)

yes, I feel bad. for my son too, he's trying to look like arnold schwarzegger and I tell him that he is good enough and it's ok. I know the magazine covers tell women, "if you don't dont like me, you are not it" that is BS. I'm sorry. I would rather see my wife in her natural face without make up then try to doll herself up all the time because a dumb magazie tells my wife "if you don't look like me. ms barbie, then you are f'ing ugly" BS. I want my daughter to have a good -self-esteem and I think we are all being dupped. Men too, the men's health, always got some guy show off his six pack. come one man. seriously? so we all got to look like you to get the "hot babes" who are trying to look like that? sad. I feel bad for women, I know you try hard and I hope a guy is not shallow to see only your outside but will look at your heart and personally and brain, you know. That is what I want for my daughter to have, a good guy, not some dumb man.

It's simple for me. It makes me feel good and it's not to impress anyone. I don't over do it but I like to keep a nice neat appearance and yes that does include the clothes I wear and the makeup I use. It's just who I am.

I try to look good as I am mostly shallow. It is one of my better features. I do know that I am being unsupportive, and shouldn't be following trends, but I don't give a poo. I don't have to be 'right on' if I don't want to.

Edit: Just to express myself better.

I wear make-up if I am staying in all day. I wear it if I am gardening. Two years ago, the guy next door and I put up our joint wire fencing. He never saw me without make-up. When I was ill recently with covid, I had my make up on most days. So and  and even , to anyone criticising me for it.

I've never been the type who dressed to impress.. I hardly wear any make up most of the time. I wear what is comfy usually. I do not care what anyone has to say about it either..... I don't feel pressured to look a certain way, and I actually think people look ridiculous when they all try to look exactly the same lol bizarre!

Thank you for sharing your every informative and good down-to-earth answers. I understand it better. I'm just saying because I want to know what goes on in your mind. that's all.

I wear hates because I'm lazy and don't want to put gel in my hair, and I am embarrassed of my high forehead. but my wife said in Japan it's not a bad thing but I'm American and was teased by kids and adults. They said "that not a forehead, that's a 7 head" but I laughed because I was used to it. Now I know from your own words, that I have an insecurity (I just know it as embarrased or shame). So I am putting my words and your words to sort of connect the dots. I'm learning still.

My daughter has a high forehead and I was like "dang" but she is my princess and honestly nothing she she does is gonna get to me, like mad or something. My tone of voice is enough to make her cry and I am sad when she cries.

I know not all women are the same.

I honestly hate it how us men try to compete to be jealous (who has bigger biceps, we think it I'm sure). Unfortunately, men like to brag of their you know what, that to me is THE stupidiest thing. I absolutely hate it. I hear someone day, "yeah, because your small" haha. No comment. I hate it how we think (men) they we are "this s*it" but we are not. I hate it how one time I read about women (sorry this might offend you now) talking on Reddit and discussing about "getting a mate" one women said "he has to be huge" talking about his you know what... that infuriated me, but I guess we men do the same, we men (stupid idiots) want the women with huge breats (as if that is gonna me me happy 24/7, no because 1000 other women are trying to get implants) and small waists (why? isn't a hot mom who has 3 children still hot? i think so), and that stupid, shallow non-sense, I absolutely hate it. It's OK if you want to vent on men or me now. I can take it. But I am very pissed off at us men, not you women.

When I look at you, and see the women with the "sort of big eye lashes" I can't help but think, that could be my daughter one day, and my heart is crushed with compassion. She is pretty, but don't see her worth. That is why I was asking this thread and you all provided very valuable insight.

I"m not saying if you are so big breasted and 10 out of 10 (whatever, I'm attracted what some might call not to fortunate and they have their own kind of hotness), I'm not saying Ms. Barbie is dumb. I'm not. I think evil men have forced women into kind of manipulating them (you women) to say "do this or men will not want it"...I guess now I'm getting kind of controversial now. Ok. I'm done. Maybe you want to roast me now. It's ok. I'm just saying my two cents and I appreciate that you all participated in my seeking for knowledge.

Bottom line, I want to help with my wife's insecurities and I tell her she is beautiful and hug and kiss her a lot. I hope she gets is. I don't care if she farts, burps, to me, it's kind a cute.

Take care ladies.

sorry

It all boils down to body shaming. Some can't take it. Me...I don't care. I'm not here on this earth to win a beauty pageant. If a man wants a thin blonde bombshell he will have to look elsewhere. I'm just a chunky old lady with graying hair and I quit wearing makeup years ago. It's too expensive now anyway. Not everyone can or desires to be an ideal weight. Some just don't care. I have no one to impress. I am who I am.

Some women have ego issues just like men. I have a friend with a natural beauty and she is a lovely creature. Two years younger than me with men tripping over their tongues when they see her. She dresses nicely but not in a slutty manner. She shows more skin than I would. But she's super nice on the inside as well. Many women like the attention but also love to reject men that take notice. It's just a power issue. Men and women are too busy lusting after the pretty but not looking for the inner desirable qualities. Many of today's younger women are b*tches and these guys don't stand a chance. I am 56. The odds of even catching a man's attention are so slim at this point because the ones my age are looking at underage girls because they're running around half dressed. Men are just lusting. They don't really care. They just want the sex.

It's because of centuries of social conditioning that set the standards for "acceptable" and often unrealistic beauty and anything that goes against that is wrong. Thus causing stress among many women to fit the established norm.

Sounds about right for me.

Pure competitiveness. I don't care what guys think about me but if another girl in my group looks better than me then I want to slap her!

I have never been competitive in that area. When I look in the mirror, I just want to know that I have done the best that I can. Trying to look better than others is just going to lead to frustration.