have you ever been banned? or they deleted themselves? [G]

Thank you emily91 this is helpful

Thank you cassie I love the honesty. It's helping me understand.

That is good Popcorn&Candy I am needing to learn these "censorship" skills I am learning now more and more.

If I say crazy stuff, please feel free to call me out on it. I might be hurt and upset but I need to learn show to control myself and take a correction. You see how crazy I talk sometimes. and

I appreciate your honestly, for me I just use Proboards and reddit rarely but more proboards. I love proboards.

When you start censoring yourself you'll find people are more friendly and you won't be banned from any forum. I guess you have to judge any profanity on websites: other users profanity - not yours. Also, the age group you're posting to is vital. One other tip: you can advise people, but remember they will choose for themselves in the end and your advice may not be followed. Don't be offended if that happens. Just be like you're on here: kind, supportive and sensibly honest.

I've never been banned, but I have left a couple of forums. Because of a redesign, one looked and felt like more of a social media site, and the attached forum just died. New members would introduce themselves, poke around, then abandon their profiles.  I did delete my profile from that one.

I came to FF after its redesign, when it was already dying. I only heard of the redesign from other members. I abandoned my profile there when I came here, but signed in only occasionally to see if I had messages.

I'm not offended if people delete their accounts because everyone has a right to do what they want with their lives. What is right for one is not right for all. If it's someone I consider a friend, then it might sting a bit more that they leave so abruptly or don't want to at least talk it out first because I'm always willing to listen and solve problems, but I don't take it personally... unless the person were to tell me it's because of me, then I might re-evaluate how I am behaving lol

There are times we have to ban people, but it's rare. It's usually trolls, but you'll find those everywhere. Sometimes it's someone who is new and is just plain rude to everyone immediately, obviously that is not going to work out in the long-run, so we just get rid of them. But we're more inclined to take milder actions where we just limit where people can post if they misbehave... and we talk about it, try to fix the problem or make sure it won't keep happening. I have a lot of patience and can be very understanding... I know nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes, so I'm not going to just throw people away for being human. Honestly, a lot of people on forums have depression, anxiety, or some other issues, and I try to be considerate of all of that being behind some behaviors, so I give way more chances than I probably should at times, but it's just how I am. I think everyone can be and do better, so I allow for those learning/growing opportunities.

We have people who join, say hello, and then decide they don't want an account after-all; they will ask me to delete them for them, and I just verify that is what they truly want first because I cannot bring back the account, and once they say yes, then I delete them. I am not going to beg someone to stay who doesn't want to be there, and I'm not going to cry over them leaving. Forums are not just about us, it's about building a community. It's about the members as a whole. We have to appreciate that everyone comes from a different walk of life and be open to lots of differences.

We want people to feel comfortable and heard. We don't want anyone to feel judged or as if we look down on them for being different from us. So, always come from a place of compassion and empathy.. sometimes that might require leaving your personal views or beliefs at the door, as we should strive to understand from other perspectives. Also, always remember that what works for us does not work for everyone, so we can't try to solve everything in everyone with what worked for us, especially not in a pushy way.

Oddly enough. Heather and I have never disagreed over kicking people off. If someone ought to go, we have always been of the same mind. I would guess we have kicked off 4 or 5 in total. Karen wasn't a mod, the last time someone had to go.

Obviously I am discounting those who we ban from even entering. There are lots of them. 

this is my safe space. i feel like i can be myself here. i also feel cared for here. i don't get judged here. sometimes some of us may have words with each other but it stops there. like we can just move on usually. we know we still care about each other. if that makes sense. i think those of us here are all kinda misfits oddly enough but we're special. i think that's what keeps it nice. there's a different level of communication here that there isn't on other sites.

plus there's games on here to play to help keep us entertained. i've never been banned from a site. i usually just piss everyone off and then they put me on ignore. then i leave. i tried to get banned from one site and they won't do it. lol!

I've been banned form a gaming forum once, which I have mentioned before... it was back in the day when there were links to gag sites, so there was one that would jump around every time you would try to hit the x.. I just thought it was funny and that other gamers would find it funny, but nope.. they banned me for HACKING lol not even a warning or anything first.

what is FF? Sorry, I'm a noobie

In general Internet terms I don't remember being banned from anywhere although I used to me a member of a local charity group which was part of a national charity. Some of the members took exception to the bullying nature of the national organisation and the resulting row got the local group expelled from the national charity and resulted in us all getting banned from their Internet site (in a member capacity).

This is, to a large extent, the only social forum I am a member of although I am a member on quite a few more technical and art forums. These I use more for reference and to keep updated on the way things are going. To some extent they can be social but not to the extent of here. I have been a member of FF and one or two others but, apart from FF, have never found anywhere as friendly.

FF was the Female Forum that many of us were members of.

Yes, a similar situation. It's sad really as the local charity shops, rather than nationally run ones, tend to be far more in keeping to the local community. Often local recycling.