It's not just that Heather. It's just everything. The way they are with their other friends compared to me. I used to see it plastered all over Facebook. That didn't help any. Just made me feel even more shitty. I have spent a lifetime never being good enough for anyone for any reason. I find the less I expect and the less I try the less the disappointment. I had a couple handfuls of these so called friends and for years I had to initiate all the contact otherwise I never heard from them period. So there's more to it than just the contact. I just wasn't wanted. Like I said if they ever do want me I won't be where they left me. I will have walked on without them. They can get butthurt all they want. They've caused me enough tears I just don't care.
Just make sure that the wall you are building is keeping those people OUT, and not keeping you in.
Incidentally, I may not be very good at this religious stuff, but I have learned from many widowed patients that friends can be made at church if you are a regular there.
Apparently a lot of them have coffee after for people to mingle.
I appreciate that Cherry but I've seen the kind of friends I could make at church and I'm passing on that too. Church isn't like it used to be. It's way worse now which is why I don't go. They want you to join but they don't want to fellowship. They don't even wanna talk to you in public. Maybe where your widowed patient goes to church is still the good old fashioned kind.
My wall is pretty thick after 54 yrs. It's difficult for me to let anyone in. It's been this way since I turned 9 and got TS. And it just got worse as time went along. I tried to fix it and keep it from happening but it just did. I don't know if at this point anything can change. I'm too untrusting now.
I appreciate that Cherry but I've seen the kind of friends I could make at church and I'm passing on that too. Church isn't like it used to be. It's way worse now which is why I don't go. They want you to join but they don't want to fellowship. They don't even wanna talk to you in public. Maybe where your widowed patient goes to church is still the good old fashioned kind.
My wall is pretty thick after 54 yrs. It's difficult for me to let anyone in. It's been this way since I turned 9 and got TS. And it just got worse as time went along. I tried to fix it and keep it from happening but it just did. I don't know if at this point anything can change. I'm too untrusting now.
My son, who is autistic gets a lot of satisfaction from chatting to other autistics on the phone. I think he does it through the autistics society.
Have you thought of doing something similar? At 54 you must have gained a lot insight over your condition.
I appreciate that Cherry but I've seen the kind of friends I could make at church and I'm passing on that too. Church isn't like it used to be. It's way worse now which is why I don't go. They want you to join but they don't want to fellowship. They don't even wanna talk to you in public. Maybe where your widowed patient goes to church is still the good old fashioned kind.
My wall is pretty thick after 54 yrs. It's difficult for me to let anyone in. It's been this way since I turned 9 and got TS. And it just got worse as time went along. I tried to fix it and keep it from happening but it just did. I don't know if at this point anything can change. I'm too untrusting now.
My son, who is autistic gets a lot of satisfaction from chatting to other autistics on the phone. I think he does it through the autistics society.
Have you thought of doing something similar? At 54 you must have gained a lot insight over your condition.
That friend I had for over 20 yrs had TS. They don't stick around either. I tried the support group on FB but the group page has some sort of technical issues and after a brief time the posts don't wanna load. *Shrugs* It's ok. Sometimes it just overwhelms me with grief and then it passes. Each wave changes me a little and I don't cry as often as I used to. I'm beginning to come to terms with the fact that I am likely facing a life of loneliness. It's like I'm having little bouts of growing pains.
Enjoying your own company is the best thing you can do for yourself.. I am sure you will find people worthy of joining your company one day, but in the meantime, at least you have yourself.... and your forum friends!
Right now.. I have a bit of a headache, so I am not feeling so great.. Ooof. Sometimes it's the stabbing brain pain with it, which is torture. I have to deal with groceries today, too, so that won't be fun.
Doing alright. Trying to get into the creepy spirit. *Grins* Did 45 minute workout. Not breathing great today. Got some of my grocery order done. Still thinking. Been off and on my video games. I have some avatars for halloween if anyone would like one.
a_muppet: Ha, I just spotted you, Noeleena - sneaking in. ::Sgc7Hl4::
Nov 13, 2024 3:58:37 GMT -5
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TestDummyCO: WOF has creaky floors. ::mCOIty6::
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heatherly: ::Sgc7Hl4::
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jen: It's good to know you are still here Noeleena ::Sgc7Hl4::
Nov 14, 2024 3:39:22 GMT -5
Ɖσмιиιc ♰: creaking floors, you make me laugh, Cherry has good eyes huh?
Nov 14, 2024 21:25:03 GMT -5
noeleena: Thank you i do come in allmost every night ,just dont allways have some thing to say ,of cause you know i,m a spy....lol,s.
Nov 19, 2024 2:06:33 GMT -5
MaryContrary: lol hi noeleena!
Nov 19, 2024 5:58:54 GMT -5
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MaryContrary: she's like the wof elf on a shelf *giggles*
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