Post by Popcorn&Candy on May 13, 2021 12:57:43 GMT -5
I read a good article in "Woman & Home" this month. It was about a prison officer who met a few famous killers. She said they looked so normal but not to be fooled. They spoke normally, they dressed normally: all that. But they were mad inside. They knew how to deceive people.
It has made me realize that the dear old lady I'm walking past could well have been in prison and could still be a psychopath. There are traits in a psychopath. These traits were mentioned in another article about a woman who married a conman. The man claimed to work for MI6, to have millions of pounds himeself: you name it, he lied about it. He swindled - as Nancy Drew would say - her out of her personal fortune.
It seems so negative to write all this, but I feel it important to open others eyes about how easy it is to be deceived: whether a criminal wants to take all your money or murder you. Or even abuse your children: as one woman realized after answering a loney hearts ad.
Take care people and don't trust anyone too much.
Last Edit: May 13, 2021 12:58:37 GMT -5 by Popcorn&Candy
Now I have actually met a couple of killers.. They were far from crazy. One had killed a man when they got into a fight about a bike, too much booze and male ego and a fatal punch.. Another was a biker ok a bit of a steryotype but he wasnt a bad man, he killed the physically abusive husband of a friend again no madness just a burning desire for justice which she wasnt getting.
A very nice young man I know and would still trust to be in my home was put in prison for attempted murder. His sister was dating a guy for about 5 years , she got pregant and when she told her BF he went ballistic insisted he have an abortion and when she said no he said 'then Ill do it for you' and kicked her in the stomach.. Richard went after he and broke his leg but because he did it in the street and shouted Im going to kill you for what you did... the judge saw it as attemtped murder.
I had two brothers who worked in the prison service and the only people they really couldnt stomach were child sex offenders. In 27 years my brother never met a really bad person and he worked in top security prison in London..
All Im saying is dont be too judgemental. Yes there are some really nasty people around but there are a lot of misguided ones and a lot of really nice ones too.
Post by Popcorn&Candy on May 14, 2021 3:35:55 GMT -5
Killers can be incredibly intelligent: this is what makes them so dangerous. I heeded the woman [in the magazine article] advice: never be fooled. They can appear so normal and mild, yet beneath they are red hot and dangerous.
There - however - are plenty of decent people who aren't killers! I am not saying everyone is dangerous. There are also many motives for murder, but - to me - murder is murder. I can understand the injustice and the rage, but taking a life is going too far. I know you already know this [you're not stupid!] but no matter the motive, when someone is put in prison for murder, they realize their actions were wrong.
I write all this because there are people I'd like to see suffer, but know that if I do cause them misery - or worse, kill them - I'd suffer much more than they did when it was payback time. I cannot agree with murder: no matter how evil or violent the victim had been.
Again, I know you don't agree with murder either! And your opinions are valid. There are so many persepctives and I felt interested in yours.
Last Edit: May 14, 2021 3:37:00 GMT -5 by Popcorn&Candy
I don't agree with murder I am a pacifist. However I also fail to see why a man who kills an abusive husband or beats up and abusive boyfriend will get put in prison yet a man who wears a uniform an who kills in the name of the government, a person that he has no personal argument with can be called a hero but we do that with soldiers all the time are they not simply trained killers , paid Killers.
A killer who stabs an abusive partner or a cheating spouse in the heat of the moment how are they worse than the government who sends people to war your for bragging rights, for greed?
To be honest there are an awful lot of people walking the streets who are far more dangerous and far more ruthless than heat of the moment killers..
Those who set out to deceive and ruin lives for nothing more than their own ego.
Hm, this topic doesn't sound like it's actually about prison lol I was going to say I'm against for-profit prisons and that I'm in favor of rehabilitation for most people.
Psychopaths and sociopaths... you won't always know you are encountering one because they can be rather good at pretending to be like everyone else.. it's just not genuine. You can try to be as cautious as you want, but some people will hide their true nature for so many years. Not so easy to avoid when that is the case! You can always think you know someone really well, and then it turns out you didn't know them at all.
I think the thing about a lot of crime is the opportunity as much as anything. The worst in Nazi Germany happened because the regime allowed it.
The closest I know that I have been to a murderer was at my mum's. She had a penpal in Australia who visited this country one time and I was there when she visited mum. She was a very nice woman who any of you would probably get on well with. She went back home and, sometime later, murdered her husband with an axe. Being so far away we never learned the full details but apparently there was marital conflict.
I watch a 60-min show about prison in Germany. Send the American prisoners there, they will never want to come back here.
Prisons here in the Netherlands are also very civilised.. Prisoners have to have heating and enough natural light as well as privacy. To be honest many are better off than some of the old people I used to care for.. Prison terms are not very long but the re-offending rate is not massivly high. Many people view prison as a chance to restart/reset life..
Prison populations seem to indicate men and women are different.
Yeah.. like violent crimes tend to be committed by men.
I might consider this yet another sign that we are failing our men on an emotional level. Women are usually more open to talking about feelings, men... not so much because of how they are raised usually. We all need outlets, and it seems for some that is theirs... but it doesn't have to be.
Prison populations seem to indicate men and women are different.
Yeah.. like violent crimes tend to be committed by men.
I might consider this yet another sign that we are failing our men on an emotional level. Women are usually more open to talking about feelings, men... not so much because of how they are raised usually. We all need outlets, and it seems for some that is theirs... but it doesn't have to be.
I think society also almost railroads men into violence. Look at the films and video games of today a huge amount of male dominated violence. According to society men should protect the family /the home/their ego/their honour /they should get respect and in every media portrayal thats done through violence.
Any man who walks away is a wimp/a fairy /a weakling/ a coward..( and a few other nastier names I wont say here)
I am glad I started this thread. It is a dark subject but there are so many trains of thought and opinions. It is all really interesting to read.
I definitely think it was a subject worth posting about on here and am glad there have been so many reponses.
I think it is a subject worth discussing. Very often we forget about people once they are behind bars and the cry of lock them up and throw away the key is one we often hear but the fact is unless we are to re-introduce the death penalty we need to be interested . Because these people do have to rejoin society and if we just keep them in a deep dark hole they are never going to fit back in..
I feel this just makes re-offending more likely because if they cant find their way they are more likely to return to old habits. So on-going support and help is necessary.
I think people need to feel they will get support if they need it. They need to feel they have a place in society without it seeming like charity. Another, very tricky, point I will raise is that for some offences there is lifetime stigma. Do we permanently lock these people up? It is a no-win situation.
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Oct 8, 2021 10:10:58 GMT -5
I watched a programme last night and the prisoner - who'd been convicted of murder - was beaten up by his inmates and left with a severe and lifelong head injury. I won't say whether he deserved it or not, though: I am not judge and jury of anyone. I have a neutral viewpoint. BUT because of his head injury he was released from prison and given lifelong care for his injuries.
It goes to show how dangerous prison is. It isn't a free hotel.
I watched a programme last night and the prisoner - who'd been convicted of murder - was beaten up by his inmates and left with a severe and lifelong head injury. I won't say whether he deserved it or not, though: I am not judge and jury of anyone. I have a neutral viewpoint. BUT because of his head injury he was released from prison and given lifelong care for his injuries.
It goes to show how dangerous prison is. It isn't a free hotel.
This just shows something which I do feel strongly about. Someone who is sentenced for a crime then put in prison to be given the arbitary rough justice of those inside. It's as bad as the old days where we sent criminals to Australia to harsh conditions where many perished (lots of countries did this in different ways, compare the French with Devil's Island).
In my opinion this needs sorting. I don't know the answer but it's obvious that the system is not fit for purpose.
The worst part is when someone is executed only to find out they were innocent.
That has to be one of the worst scenarios the justice system must encounter. It leaves the guilty free, too: it is one of the most awful miscarriages of justice.
France celebrates 40 years since banning the death penalty and hope to convince the rest of the world to follow.
I know it can be barbaric but honestly, the world is going to hell in a handbasket we are running short of resourses heat food and medical care for honest people. When we catch the Myra Hindleys, the Dennis Nielsons, the Marc Dutroux's , the John Waybe Gacy and the Ted Bundys of the world we know we cant ever let them back out into society, would not a quick painless death be better for them and us?
Note Im not talking blanket death sentances but only in those of 100% sure guilt and those of the most horrific crimes. The psychopaths among us.
Post by Popcorn&Candy on Oct 10, 2021 6:01:07 GMT -5
This sounds weird, but there are more psychopaths in the world than we may realize. I don't know why some people are psychopaths, though. And you're right Cassie: we can't allow those evil people to be free.
I don't know whether the death penalty is wrong or right: I am sure many have their opinions.
France celebrates 40 years since banning the death penalty and hope to convince the rest of the world to follow.
I know it can be barbaric but honestly, the world is going to hell in a handbasket we are running short of resourses heat food and medical care for honest people. When we catch the Myra Hindleys, the Dennis Nielsons, the Marc Dutroux's , the John Waybe Gacy and the Ted Bundys of the world we know we cant ever let them back out into society, would not a quick painless death be better for them and us?
Note Im not talking blanket death sentances but only in those of 100% sure guilt and those of the most horrific crimes. The psychopaths among us.
I am not fussy on the death penalty, but I would find it acceptable if it was the choice of the criminal.
It is such a difficult area.
Do we lock up rapists for life? If so, they might be wiser killing the only witness?
Recently I read of a man getting 6 years for grievous assault. Fair enough, ostensibly, but the woman he assaulted was blinded by the ammonia he assaulted her with.
6 years sounds short to me.... On the plus side, he was recently found dead in his cell, and that was all the information that was given out.
France celebrates 40 years since banning the death penalty and hope to convince the rest of the world to follow.
I know it can be barbaric but honestly, the world is going to hell in a handbasket we are running short of resourses heat food and medical care for honest people. When we catch the Myra Hindleys, the Dennis Nielsons, the Marc Dutroux's , the John Waybe Gacy and the Ted Bundys of the world we know we cant ever let them back out into society, would not a quick painless death be better for them and us?
Note Im not talking blanket death sentances but only in those of 100% sure guilt and those of the most horrific crimes. The psychopaths among us.
That has usually been my thoughts on it... only if there is 100% proof and their crimes are just too terrible to ever "fix" them. Some people can be rehabilitated, but a lot cannot help how they are. Kind of like putting down a rabid animal, it's so they don't suffer anymore and that they can't harm anyone else.
France celebrates 40 years since banning the death penalty and hope to convince the rest of the world to follow.
I know it can be barbaric but honestly, the world is going to hell in a handbasket we are running short of resourses heat food and medical care for honest people. When we catch the Myra Hindleys, the Dennis Nielsons, the Marc Dutroux's , the John Waybe Gacy and the Ted Bundys of the world we know we cant ever let them back out into society, would not a quick painless death be better for them and us?
Note Im not talking blanket death sentances but only in those of 100% sure guilt and those of the most horrific crimes. The psychopaths among us.
That has usually been my thoughts on it... only if there is 100% proof and their crimes are just too terrible to ever "fix" them. Some people can be rehabilitated, but a lot cannot help how they are. Kind of like putting down a rabid animal, it's so they don't suffer anymore and that they can't harm anyone else.
I remember my brother telling me about a convesation he had with a child sex offender. ( My brother was a prison guard) He said normally these people made him feel sick but this one guy was older less hardened and he explained that it was like need for air he couldnt be cured of it any more than a normal person could be asked not to breathe.
He said he knew no matter what treatment or couselling he had he would never be cured, he said he made himself sick but he couldnt stop and he knew he would re-offend.
In a way you feel sorry for people like that knowing that what they have is like an incurable disease.. Not that you condone what they do but you just wonder if sometimes , they would be better off given an alternative to the constant prison/reoffending/prison merry go round.
That has usually been my thoughts on it... only if there is 100% proof and their crimes are just too terrible to ever "fix" them. Some people can be rehabilitated, but a lot cannot help how they are. Kind of like putting down a rabid animal, it's so they don't suffer anymore and that they can't harm anyone else.
I remember my brother telling me about a convesation he had with a child sex offender. ( My brother was a prison guard) He said normally these people made him feel sick but this one guy was older less hardened and he explained that it was like need for air he couldnt be cured of it any more than a normal person could be asked not to breathe.
He said he knew no matter what treatment or couselling he had he would never be cured, he said he made himself sick but he couldnt stop and he knew he would re-offend.
In a way you feel sorry for people like that knowing that what they have is like an incurable disease.. Not that you condone what they do but you just wonder if sometimes , they would be better off given an alternative to the constant prison/reoffending/prison merry go round.
Yeah... I do feel sorry for anyone who isn't normal, even if what they do is so terrible and unforgivable at times, mainly if they show remorse or know that it's wrong and they just have these urges they can't stop.. do they all actually want to be that way? Would they change if they actually could? I bet many would want to change if it were possible.
Last Edit: Oct 12, 2021 9:39:03 GMT -5 by heatherly
That has usually been my thoughts on it... only if there is 100% proof and their crimes are just too terrible to ever "fix" them. Some people can be rehabilitated, but a lot cannot help how they are. Kind of like putting down a rabid animal, it's so they don't suffer anymore and that they can't harm anyone else.
I remember my brother telling me about a convesation he had with a child sex offender. ( My brother was a prison guard) He said normally these people made him feel sick but this one guy was older less hardened and he explained that it was like need for air he couldnt be cured of it any more than a normal person could be asked not to breathe.
He said he knew no matter what treatment or couselling he had he would never be cured, he said he made himself sick but he couldnt stop and he knew he would re-offend.
In a way you feel sorry for people like that knowing that what they have is like an incurable disease.. Not that you condone what they do but you just wonder if sometimes , they would be better off given an alternative to the constant prison/reoffending/prison merry go round.
Many do stop. I understand the re-offending rate is lower than many severe crimes.
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