Would you leave your husband if you found he was a sx addict

I perhaps agree with Cassie but I am not sure how I would react. Red light - no, but porn maybe depends more on circumstance.

It's a difficult topic. I don't support any man watching porn at all, despite my own recovery story from it and other things. I know other couples are ok with it and do that kind of thing like open relationships but I am very against it, knowing now how much it hurt my wife and my own self too.

thank you for your replies. I agree that the man who watched cp would and should be reported but I know there are some who will never admit to it, don't want help and it's said. I would like to help a guy in this area, even though I don't have experience in that kind of perversion, but I would still share my story with him.

I wonder if sex workers ladies came on this thread and gave you their story, I wonder what they would say. I am not for them either, I know they are trying to make a buck too, but I am against all red light places and even porn. That is why I am in recovery still, even after a long time not falling into it, I consider myself and addict and most men hide this stuff.

A little porn wouldn't bother me but no way to a visit to the Red Light district.

Nope.

You are running two things in together. Porn and addiction. I like a bit of written porn, pictures I find indifferent. I couldn't care less if my partner was interested in porn, I really don't understand why people do freak out about it. They are just pictures, and do I really expect that my partner looks at nothing more attractive than me? 

Blade Runner, a favourite film of mine has a line in it from the female lead when asked about her husband looking at porn "I should be enough for him!" Really? She should be able to cover every single thing that catches his eye? Or should she have married someone that has a very narrow sexual imagination.

Addiction is a different matter. That is an illness, and definitely bad news, but like other illnesses caring and compassion is what any loving partner should feel. Not terribly hurt.

Evening

So much has been raised here, so i need time to run it through my thinking process, one detail i see is and i can not say it apply,s to me not ever from a guy .= He should be enough for me =. or I for him.

for my self because i was not born a complete female from birth i would never be enough for a man thats the bottom line sexually i fail, So that being the case would a guy wont to be with me at all.AND If he would how would i be enough when i cant meet his expections sexually ,he would need sex as men so this is the issue i have faced and as i look into the face of a man knowing what he needs of cause he would be told long before any sexual relastionship can take place, well ....

Well your a male ...yes...so you tell me what would you say to me ,knowing i,m an incomplete born female , you would wonder ....WHAT...oh heck you would be off guard for a start , then youd say , i need sex so youd look for an other women ,,,WHO... CAN GIVE YOU WHAT YOU NEED .

I,v done my home work i have talked to men in the 100.s face to face on our different forums over a long time = years, quite a few are alone no partner no real sexual partner , so they turn to the subject matter we are talking about to fill a need would that , i MEAN THAT need , be enough , no so they wont a no strings attached friendship.

And yes i have talked to the women of the night The prostitutes Collictive i have people i know in many places so i am schooled up ,or should i say i have friends in many places, same with gay people and the other one was the AID,s Foundation , i met many 1000,s of people and yes i needed to learn a lot to understand people .

The bottom line for myself in all this and more i was there to learn understand and help , i,m not the Judge i cant tell people what to do no matter what i think and i have to be very carefull and i cant repeat or tell other,s is all private info. and is a responsable postion . all i,ll say is,

One person has been inside for 9 years and is 3 years out and 2 year to go so i know what it can do to people addiction or hooked on sex to the extreme,

With in myself i wonder with all the forums sites and what ever,s out there what has changed over the years from the times 1940,s on and many be early before that even the blue films for men , may not be as ...cant find the word... i quess ...HOT films ...or very sexy then men are men and sexually driven .

And to day is like the world is driven by sex in any way shape or form ,

...noeleena...