What quality of a man do you consider the best? [G]

Any man who doesn't let any toxic behaviors encouraged through childhood define their perspective on what makes a man. Society dictates that boys get taught from a young age that they have to own things (including women) and that their duty is to be a provider as well as give everything to the women in their lives. This only breeds a toxic mentality that festers misogynistic outlooks and can lead to relationship problems as well as domestic abuse. A lot of men tend to have fragile egos that if they let something that traditionally is associated with women into their routines or their life they are somehow less of a man. That even something such as listening to their sisters or girlfriends could get them called things like 'pussy-wiped' or 'gay.' Causing to lack understanding of personal boundaries and personal feelings.

I would say men are rare in this world as many men still feel like they're boys trying to gain an understanding of themselves. So any man who has the confidence to admit what they like without fear of scrutiny and stills firm in their interests in such scrutiny is among the most desirable man for which to engage in a romantic relationship with. Though that has to remain within reason. Though such a desirable man would have the ability to examine such interests or passion on how it affects the people in their lives and be willing to adjust or remove any unnecessary activities that may bring self-harm or harm to others. A gentleman seems like such an outdated term that itself stems from toxic mindset, but I do believe there exists modern day gentlemen that have made that realization for me.

If I were to list what I would want in a man partner... they'd be...

1. The ability to recognize personal boundaries and personal emotions of not just for the people in their lives but also themselves.
2. Is always open to direct communication with an understanding of body language.
3. The confidence to admit they are not ashamed of engaging in any interests, routine, or past time traditionally associated with the opposite sex.
4. Willingness to provide a strong support system and nurturing a secure environment for their partners and themselves.
   
5. The ability to examine toxic behaviors and amend them.
   
6. Personally responsible to freely engage in kink with the knowledge of safety precautions (such as aftercare) while also willing to examine anything which may jeopardize the safety of themselves or their partners.

Yes, but to add a sense of humour too.

Indeed.

Does his religion matter?

Two are not enough for me, I have a short list

How popular is the word 'toxic'

A good man, like Jesus Christ.

I'm afraid I could not marry a Muslim or someone of another religion. He is either Christian or an atheist. I also steer clear of men who are members of cults.

If my wife quote that scripture to me, I would obey it, not because those words came form her mouth, but because my God, has given the command to love God with all my heart, mind, soul, and strength, and love my neighbor as myself, and even love my enemies, so I have "no right" to hold "any grudges" against my wife, and I must listen to her. It's funny, now I remember my mental health doctor telling me that "you need to listen to your wife"


I know there are times when I am to gently, and kindly, explain my point of view, but the issue with me is one of "submission", I submit to my Lord Jesus first, an in effect, I will obey His command, believe that is right, then do what my wife is saying "not for show" but "actually believe it's the right thing to go" THAT, is what I'm aiming at.

It might sound like I am losing power, or whatever (to men? to women?) but that is how I interpret the scriptures.

I'm not a good man for doing this, I don't think I am. I'm doing as it's right for me to offer back to God my all, to including loving my wife.

they will be beat and bully. If not now, then God will get them. Yes, they will pay. I don't think for a bit serial killers, and especially Hitler, got away with anything.. nope, they are suffering now.

Yes: they are. They abused their power for their own personal gain.

Karma leaves them in misery. But I don't sympathise.

You're a wise man, Dominic: a decent man.