How do you spot fake kindness?

Most social interaction is rehearsed to an extent . We are conditioned so if anyone asks how are you? Everyone replies " fine thanks"
Everyone tells everyone ' hello you look great' even when they are half dead.

So most people have a certain fakeness in so far that what they say is more for social acceptance rather than genuine feeling.

That's a good question. Also, though: you have to just not care if someone is a fake and steer clear of them.

Just so ^^

At work, I am professionally kind and caring. I try to work in a holistic fashion. If a patient tells me they have problems outside of my speciality, I will try to help. But once they have walked out the door, it's "Next please!"

Even when performing my own speciality, I will do my very best every time. This makes my job easier in the long run as they improve.

This thread is fascinating: I am finding everyone's response to Leaf's thread very interesting.

We all have our takes on kindness and when it is appropriate and necessary. I am a very nice person: but I don't always actually care in a deep way. I do care and aren't nice for my personal gain, but I am not always feeling it as such.

I certainly know the doctor is nice, but when I leave her office it is also "Next please!" for her. But I don't take offense at this. She is doing a job and had been nice to me. It is just the way of things that she has other patients she is nice to.

Also, my bestie - as I call Vicky - had someone be nice for their personal gain. They wanted her bank account details, using the excuse they needed train money to see her. She quickly realized it was fake-nice and refused. Vicky is no one's fool.

Anyhow, that is one of my takes on the subject.

There is a saying - Better the enemy you know than the friend who stabs you in the back.

I like a nurse being fake for instance but would not like psychotic fakeness. It really depends on who is being fake nice and what their motives could be. A nurse is no one to worry about but someone pretending to be my friend IS a problem.

This would probably have been more suitable in your thread about your friend vicky, as she most certainly is one. This is why it has rung a bell for you, although you may not have realised it yet.

Does she conform to many of SPECIAL ME?

I'm sure we've all ran into or know of a narcissist. 

At my age, I worry less about others and their opinion. I worry even less if they're "faking kindness". I mean, we all do it, "fake kindness".

I don't REALLY want to hold the door open and smile, but I will because it feels GOOD to do something for strangers, sometimes. I don't want to let that person over into my lane of traffic but I will because, why the hell not? 

A man asked for my number and I gave him a local restaurant's number.  Is that "faking kindness"? 

I suppose I am too old for that now.

As this is a UK scheme our overseas members may not know what it means.

'Ask for Angela' began in the UK in 2016 by a police officer who named it in honour of her friend Angela Crompton, whose husband killed her with a hammer. It started in bars and restaurants as a way to alert staff of sexual assault, trafficking or generally uncomfortable behaviour.  

This code-phrase will indicate to staff that you require help, and a trained member of staff will then look to support and assist you. This might be through reuniting you with a friend, seeing you to a taxi, or by calling venue security and/or Police.

Male or female, gay, straight or otherwise who may be feeling threatened or unsafe can use this phrase.

I think Lola said it perfectly..

Fortunately, maybe I won't.