Tantrums- how do you DEAL with them

I always heard children go through the "terrible two's"... and "terrible three's"... so I guess what you mostly do is wait for them to grow out of the worst stages where they throw tantrums all the time.

If nothing is working, then... you tell him to sit in the corner until he can behave and stop throwing a tantrum. And for every time he tries to leave the corner or gets worse, you add more time on. That is what you'll have to tell him so he tries to behave sooner instead of being stuck there forever.

My parents always sent me to my room if I was throwing tantrums. They'd tell me to go in there and think about what I did lol so I would go in there, and I would cry and keep throwing my tantrum by myself until I calmed down.. then I'd start to play with toys once I was all better. For some reason I never touched my toys until after I stopped misbehaving, but I'm sure you can't leave all kids on their own and expect them to remain punished on their own lol

before i go to supermarket with my mini me, i always explain to her that we only need to buy the things that are needed like food, her school things, etc.if she will behave herself she'll get 1 reward and that is to choose what ever she wants as long as i can suck it in my budget...lol!

id say im more tolerant at it, my OH loses it easier than i do, i can ignore him to an extent too.
i put him in his room the other day, he was messing near the cooker and was throwing him self on the floor so i picked him up and he nutted me with the back of his head, i thought he broke my nose, luckily he didnt just bruised it, but he wouldnt calm down or behave was just crying and crying, so i took him to his room to cool off and hopefully behave, he didnt stop crying but after 5 mins i decided to go get him and after a couple mins he calmed down and gave me loves.
i also try putting him in a 'corner' and tell him to calm but no matter how many times iget him sat down he stands up kicking off again, he lashes about and hurts himself, his behaviour can sometimes be very extreme

i sometimes take M into the garden if hes worked up, but then it all starts again when we come in, its very exhausting work being a parent

He sure does Shell, he is sometimes the one enforcing the discipline rather than me, we do our fair share each

My daughter would get the "I think we need to discuss this" Each time we 'discussed' an item, it would take longer and longer, with more and more repetition, and clarification that she really had got it. It was more painful than any slap. Sometimes she would actually get close to tears and beg not to discuss it again, swearing that it would never happen again. Under those circumstances, the discussion would be brief, but it would still happen.

My ex used to shout and scream at her, and was very insulting, but it was like water off a ducks back to her. He also used to ground her for months at a time, and you could see from her face "Yeh, right, as if!"

You just have to do your best rexy, your kids will get it sooner or later.

My groundings were more like:

"Right you are grounded tonight!"
"Well I am not going out anyway!"
"Would you prefer to be grounded tomorrow then?"

That technique rarely failed.

His technique was rubbish, because he wanted instant respect, and to be their best friend too. It doesn't work that way. If you want to be friends with your children, you have to expect backchat and debate. That is how the cookie crumbles.

I think I got it right, coz my daughter now comes looking for me to chat and to spend time with and she is in her twenties, living with her fiance and with a responsible job.

I am so flattered that she wants to use some of her spare time to share it with me.

She turned out so much better than I realistically hoped for. The drag factor from HIS genes don't seem to have disturbed her too much.